What I’m gonna write now is conceivably going to provoke others’ animosity towards me but I do feel that there is a need to express these thoughts promptly without any delay. I’ve been keeping these thoughts in my mind for quite a long time however it took time to put these thoughts into apt words.
To begin, this is going to be about the birthday ‘brutality’ which has constantly been occurring among my fellow students here since quite a long time ago.
Call me old-fashioned, but in my humble opinion, birthday celebrations are supposed to be unforgettable in a positive way. It is meant to be an occasion full of joy, laughter, and blessing. Not an event in which people bait each other and make others look like trashy fools. No. In consequence, it is an unmitigated shame on you if you deem such silly celebrations amusing. Does anybody else agree with me?
You called these fun? Yes, it is, but only from the viewpoint of the spectators and the ‘persecutors’, not from the viewpoint of the birthday kids themselves. These occasions are indeed memorable. I mean, please, who on earth would ever forget the day when your friends pour a disgustingly stinky mixture consisting of coffee + cooking oil + flour + eggs + etc onto your whole body while your body is helplessly tied to the streetlight? I suppose that a person who had been soaked by this sort of mixture before would perpetually bear in mind that his friends weren’t even treating him as a respectable human being, since a good friend would never let these stuff happen to his buddies.
Furthermore, I would describe what happened in the picture above as inconsiderate, or to be more precise, immoral. It is a cheap form of entertainment played by inferior and immature adults.
Simmer down, I’m not trying to say that I’m a person with high moral integrity or what. I admit that I’m always the one who laughs the loudest whenever occasions like these occur. Back then in high school I also played this way. Yet in university, for once I also tried to crack an egg on the head of a friend though in the end I failed doing so, the egg didn’t even manage to land on his head. But even if the egg touched his head, I would very sincerely apologise and to be honest if I could go back in time I definitely would have chosen NOT to get involved in the egg-cracking stuff. Anyway, I’m not a virtuous person at all. Nonetheless, yesterday when other Indonesian students ‘bullied’ Fitri, I really felt like: “OMFG how could they even have the heart to treat a girl this way??”
Moreover, once someone is baited on his birthday, he will want to conduct a revenge. How? It is going to be by ragging his friends on their birthdays. It leads me to a question, when the fuck on earth is this deadly cycle going to end? Some people would say that I’m such a wet blanket who doesn’t know how to enjoy university life. If you are one of those people, STFU then. University is not a suitable place for you. Rural areas are. The village kids would be more than honoured to play this game with you.
In a nutshell, I truly find it hard to believe that some people are still doing this for entertainment in the university. Nevertheless I won’t judge these people, at least they have the alacrity to celebrate their friends’ birthdays despite the fact that those celebrations are done in a way that I personally do not accept.
Stop humiliating yourself by lowering your life standards, like seriously. Therefore, it’s time to bring this foolhardiness to a standstill and grow up. 做人不要太過分。己所不欲，勿施於人。